No Expectations



As you remember, a few months ago I did a workshop with Justin & Mary Marantz in New Haven – and one of the biggest things I walked away with wasn’t beautiful photos, or the ability to keep my wits about me on a wedding day (I mean – I did learn those things too!), but it was something Mary said to me in the first 20 minutes of shooting. Forget expectations.

Funny she should say that as that was our theme for the year in 2011 – we were preparing to move to wherever God was calling Andrew in his ministry, and while we had both lived our entire lives in the Midwest we had to be realistic that God could call us to wherever He wanted. Thus – no expectations became our mantra. Having no expectations helped us go from frantic ‘what-if-god-calls-us-to-the-middle-of-who-knows-where’ to being able to truly center ourselves on the fact that when we have expectations, where are not having open eyes and ears to where we are being led in life.

So for Mary to say those two words to me as I am boiling over in frantic ‘what-if-people-say-i-have-the-wrong-camera-wrong-lenses-wrong-website-or-don’t-do-what-everyone-else-is-doing” jabber, all I could think was “are you kidding me?”.

Maybe God sends us reoccuring messages in different ways so we can be reminded that He created us individually. That He created us with gifts and abilities different from each other. So that we listen and watch closely for those moments where He is especially talking to us. So that we aren’t looking at what others have, what paths others are walking and think that there is a one size fits all standard to life.

Maybe you need to hear this today too – to leave your expectations of what things should be and accept them as they are. That things as they are might be better than what you expected.

Author: Alicia Sturdy

Fan of cities, the beach, wild curls and Ina Garten. Photographer and owner of Hither & Hold.

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